Yesterday I drove down to San Marcos and met up with my sister for some shopping and lunch. This might not seem like a big deal for most sisters, but it has been a trying six months for our relationship so this day was a big deal for us.
There really is no reason to go into all of the details of our 'family drama' so long story short: my sister is married and kept it a secret from my dad for close to three years, I have known for the last year or so and felt like I was betraying him by keeping it a secret. So in February we exchanged some unpleasant words, I issued an ultimatum and we hadn't spoken since.
My sister and I have always been very close, we have silly traditions of bad Mexican food and shopping days where we don't actually buy anything and Jack in a Box on Christmas night. We are both a little goofy so together we are able to really be ourselves and just have fun. Not having her in my life for the last six months has been difficult, so her reaching out to me on my birthday was absolutely the best thing in the world to me.
In our family we rarely talk about feelings or emotions, we are the specialists of pushing all of those emotions down and ignoring them. So per usual we didn't actually discuss what we said to each other or dwell on the fact that we hadn't spoken in six months. We just picked up right where we left off: we talked, shopped and ate bad Mexican food. And it was wonderful. I hope that this is the start of us reestablishing our relationship and learning to better respect the fact that we are each adults with our own opinions and will make our own choices.
I haven't been to an outlet mall in years and seven hours later I walked away with very little besides aching feet. Which is probably best considering my nonexistent shopping budget, my few purchases were pretty lack luster except for this little gem. Mr. B is a big Cardinals fan so for $8.98 this was something I knew he would appreciate and even more so that I made it through the Victoria Secret Outlet store with only spending $8.98, a true accomplishment! Maybe Mr. B is starting to rub off on me and I will learn to stick to a budget, not likely.